Foundations

With every family there are lessons, there is laughter, there is love and there is Legacy. I was thinking of Zachary as he related his day at Kindergarten one day. He said, "Mom, I've never had my card pulled because I always follow the rules. That's because I'm a Blecman, Mom. My friend doesn't know what being a Blecman means, but I do. We're leaders and we always listen and behave."

I cherish this; it makes me smile as much as it fills my heart. Yes, one could say that how I parent is old school - very old school. In fact, I submit to a time, hundreds of years ago, when chivalry and honor meant everything and clans formed together in a solid bond. This is perhaps another reason why I fell in love with Culhain; same ideals, same desires. Same pursuit and interest in seeking love with each other in total partnership rather than thinking we also would need to court the attention of the world as a party to our relationship. No, I am in him as he is in me; it is the two of us, our family, our values and the lessons, attitudes and integrity we want every single one of our children to carry forward in their lives.

It reminds me very much of the basics of happiness: Living gratitude first gives way to selflessness next which truly builds impregnable foundations of Joy. When we remove ego from any and every situation, truth emerges and peace cannot help but be discovered in abundance. Yes, the fruit of the spirit is peace; and of peace, there is Joy ...

So a challenge to anyone who might be feeling a little inadequate, perhaps unrest, mired in confusion or holding onto anything that keeps you locked in patterns you wish to escape:

Ask yourself: What am I thankful for right this very minute and how does it fill and serve me? Do I see that every negative thought, no matter what it is about, comes down to the fear of regard from others?

I maintain that all heartache, stress and struggle comes down to this, but if we can reject the ever-precarious manacles of pride and remember to sit within God's view - well, there you are. Pure. Light shining down from a Heavenly Father who sees in each of us all that he designed for our individual lives, where we are in the lessons and circumstances he has tenderly tailored for our growth, and the gentleness and clarity of the paths He would have us take. Oh, and the world melts away ...

So, Blessings - rich, abundant blessings and so much peace. I'll say it again until my record is broken: Give Love, Be Love; Seek Love to honor Love.

Always, Bec

 

- This Carman Girl